Pain Management

I gained great the insights from this podcast interview of Nir Eyal with Greg McKeown where he said “Time Management is Pain Management” meaning if we know how to manage our uncomfortable feelings we will be better able to manage our time. We are the ones who initiate distraction to feel better emotions.

There is no harm in indulging in social media or Netflix as long as we do it with intention. Plan to spend an hour on those things in a certain time of the day, then when that time comes enjoy it guilt-free.

The experience is radically different when done on purpose rather than as an escape mechanism.

Pain Management

This Happens 4 Times A Year

I am so looking forward to this special week for three reasons:

  1. Doing the Weekly Review today. (#13 of the year)
  2. Doing the Monthly Review over the weekend. I’ll do it by reviewing the 4 weekly reviews of the month.
  3. Doing the Quarterly Review over the weekend. I’ll do it by reviewing the past three monthly reviews.

See, this system worked wonderfully last year, and I am thrilled to maintain it this year.

I invite you to start this habit small by committing to weekly reviews first. It’s my keystone habit for life tracking.

P.S: You can find all my favorite planners and journals here.

This Happens 4 Times A Year

Digital Habits Update-March 2021

My new post digital declutter challenge life is not working as well as I intended it.

I still need to re-configure some stuff. I would be lying if I said I didn’t care about the engagement level of my stories or posts. I want my content to do well and reach people who will benefit from it. I am still attached to the outcome (rather than The Practice) which is highly challenging and algorithm-dependent. I still have the urge to check and post in the morning because I like inspiring my followers in such an important part of the day that I often speak about mastering, not just post in the evenings as I decided when I ended the challenge last month.

What’s been working:

  • Quiet no phone evenings are still working great after I get home from work.
  • No social media during working hours.
  • Committing to the time limit for social media most days.
  • No Facebook on phone.
Continue reading “Digital Habits Update-March 2021”
Digital Habits Update-March 2021

Don’t Think it, Write it

When I am at my home office early in the morning, I tend to stare outside the window a lot and replay a recent event in my head or daydream. Then I notice the timer on my desk which means I need to focus to make the best of my morning routine before heading to work or kids wake up, so I tell myself “don’t think it, write it” to remember to use my journal to capture my daydreams and replays on paper. Locking my thoughts in paper helps me think more clearly and get some insights.

Continue reading “Don’t Think it, Write it”
Don’t Think it, Write it

Apps I love: Readwise

An application I’m adoring these days is readwise. After using it for a month I’ll recommend it to anyone who uses Kindle for reading.

Readwise brings back all those books I read years ago on my Kindle through a digest of my own highlights sent by a daily email and their super app. It can also save twitter threads for you, how cool is that?

What I like about Readwise is that I don’t only remember what I read, I remember who I was when I read those books and feel proud of all the long hours I put into reading. It gives so much joy to use it and I can save and share favorite highlights in social media-friendly formats.

Click my link to get a free one-month trial and see for yourself.

HT to @AliAbdaal for pointing me towards Readwise.

Apps I love: Readwise

Recommit

You broke your diet?
You binged on social media and Netflix?
You yelled at your kids again despite your intentions to be a calmer parent?
You stopped meditating?
You stopped working out?
You gossiped again?
You stayed up way too late?
You slept in way too late?
You let your books collect dust?
You broke the chain of your new daily habit?
You checked your phone first thing in the morning?
You did not do what you said you would?
You let the gas tank go empty?
You went to bed with makeup on?
You did not return that phone call?
You kept picking up your phone while with family?
You kept picking up your phone in your focused session?
You got the gift last minute?
You forgot to drink water?
You postponed that task one more time?

Good! Now you are aware this is not what you want.
Forgive yourself and simply recommit.
That is the beauty of a new day.

Recommit

Find The Good

I was reading the Arabic translation of an English book that I owned to be able to find better words to use for my Arabic podcast. The translation was excellent and kept the spirit of this favorite book of mine intact. Then I noticed a mistake in translation where the translator missed negating a sentence that the author did. The first thought that came into mind was: oh I have to find the email address of the translator and notify him to make sure he fixes this in the next version! Then, I noticed my thoughts.

Continue reading “Find The Good”
Find The Good

Streaks & Chains

I’ve talked often in this blog about the power of chains as a way to track habits, simply because It works. Crossing off any habit as “done”  is the exact kind of short term reward that enforces commitment to an action until it becomes a habit. Seeing the chain of daily wins growing is powerful to keep at it.

James Clear mentioned the example of his father who swims daily, and to keep himself motivated , crosses off the day on his calendar after. Why? because on a day-to-day basis he can’t see the impact of committing to his habit, however,  every time he crosses off that calendar he feels progress towards becoming healthier.

This is a key idea in James’s book Atomic Habits; every time we commit to a habit we cast a vote to the identity of the type of person we want to become. We need to ask ourselves 2 questions to form the right habits for us:

  1. Who is the type of person we want to be?
  2. What choices does this type of person make?

For example, if healthy is our new chosen identity, we need to ask ourselves what would a healthy person do? What meal would he/she pick? What would they say when offered dessert? Every time we work out we also strengthen our new identity as healthy people, our chain would prove it even if we still can’t or feel the results yet. Seeing visual progress helps us keep going instead of quitting.


I enjoy how some applications and platforms also use the concept of chains, Readwise keeps a streak of how many days users read their selection of book highlights.  Akmibo workshops keep streaks of how many days students show up in the workshop in a row and notify them every now and then and also post their names on a board for all streak keepers. As their student, this makes me want to show up even more to keep and grow my streak, this is the funny and lovely thing about our beautiful human brain, it gets so motivated by all this tracking and rewarding. 


Make the magic of streaks work for you too. Start a chain of a new daily habit and keep showing up every single day. Remember to ask what kind of person you want to be, then do what that person does and track it everyday.

Streaks & Chains

No book will save you

Don’t get me wrong. A book after another saved me when I needed saving. But it’s time for me to stop “the hunt”. And you too.

You will save you. You appreciating what you already gained. You using all the resources you have instead of looking for the new shiny thing out there. You getting engaged with the ideas you read. You implementing what you learn. You taking action and learning from your own mistakes. You learning from others’ mistakes without having to go through their whole experience. You reflecting on your days and weeks and months and years. You changing course when things stop working. You pushing forward knowing it only might be the dip. You announcing your commitments and living up to them. You sharing what you think. You asking for feedback and accepting it as the gift it is from the generous souls in your life. You showing up without seeing tangible progress daily trusting that the compound interest will be totally worth it.

It’s you first.

Then find people who are like you and carry on together.

You can’t do it alone.

No book will save you

Minimum Creative Dose

When I love a book so much and want to talk about it on my podcast or videos, I like to immerse myself in the ideas of the book by listening to them explained in the author’s own words in his/her podcast interviews about the book or through book summaries on Blinkist app. This is what the author David Kadavy called “A Minimum Creative Dose” in his book “Mind management not time management”.

Continue reading “Minimum Creative Dose”
Minimum Creative Dose