The Good Doctor

My friend told me about a unique experience she had with a doctor she visited recently for a consult regarding a skin condition that her baby has. As she was about to feel discouraged due to terrible experiences with previous doctors, this doctor proved otherwise.

My friend told this doctor about a new research she found that would help with the particular condition her baby has. The young doctor asked for the research, read it on the spot then openly said he did not hear of it before, but, if it was his son he would try the nonintrusive treatment prescribed in the research immediately. You can imagine the relief my friend felt.

This doctor was an example of empathy and kindness. He helped calm the fear the parents had. Furthermore, he said he will study this research more to help other patients, and he did not even charge the young couple. He made a lasting positive impression and built trust with his willingness to educate himself and putting himself in the shoes of his patients. I wish there were more doctors like him.

The Good Doctor

Open up

Open up. Don’t keep it shut.
The door to your heart is not meant to be there.
You built it up when you got hurt.

Open up. Don’t keep it shut.
The door to your heart is not letting love in or out.

Open up. Don’t keep it shut.
Doors are not for hearts.
You think your door is protecting you but it’s only blocking the flow of love that is your birthright.

Open up. Don’t keep it shut
It lies. This door.
It tells you stuff like: “show them how it feels to withhold love from them“.
You think you’re the punisher. You are the punished.

Open up. Don’t keep it shut.
Whenever you feel your heart closing down, remember that.
Shutting down is not the way you handle life.
Keep it open and stay watching.
That’s the courageous choice.
Shutting down is turning your back to your life and to those you share it with.

Open up. Don’t keep it shut.
The doorway should be clear. The door must be wrecked off its hinges.

Open up. Don’t keep it shut.
When your heart is open, they can tell.
They will feel your unconditional approval of them.
And guess what? They, too, will crack theirs open.

Open up darling. Don’t keep it shut.

Open up

Rereading

I hardly re-read any paperback books. The only books I usually re-read are audiobooks because I miss a lot of the content first time round. However, this is my 4th year reading The Daily Stoic. This is such a good annual read that I highly recommend.

Whenever I see something underlined or highlighted by my past self I get mixed feelings. Sometimes I feel “I hardly changed, this part still amazes me“. Other times I feel “That does not resonate with me anymore“. Many times I wonder what I was thinking when I circled a passage many times. I always highlight new parts that stand out to me but did not before.

Rereading a book is a lot like rereading old journal entries where you meet a younger version of you. You feel you changed a lot and not that much simultaneously. It is a beautiful feeling. That’s why I’m more convinced I need to take book notes because they are also a documentation of who we are when we read those books.

Rereading

Podcast Stats for Fun

I was delighted this morning to see that the numbers of my podcast downloads are growing fast. Yesterday was an all-time high in downloads per day reaching 303 with the release of the last part of Atomic Habits book discussion. This way the podcast crossed 18K total downloads to date, making a 1000 in one week. See how the daily downloads mean is shifting up in the chart below.

The number of unique listeners has doubled lately to reach about 700 per week. This is reassuring that I’m on the right track, although, as Seth says reassurance is futile. That’s why I am not spending anytime benchmarking my stats against other podcasts. IT’s pretty cool to me and I am grateful.

It’s also really fun to see where my listeners are in the chart below, naturally my home country Jordan is #1.

For spreading the word, listening and spending time investing in your growth with me, I thank you so much.

Podcast Stats for Fun

Forgive for you

We communicate, and we clear the air, and we ask for forgiveness for our own sake. Holding it all in could make us sick, could delay us, could leave us sleepless and hopeless.

Forgive for you. Forgiving does not mean condoning the act that caused you pain. You do it for you. You see the light in the other even though it was overshadowed with their dark behavior. You distance yourself if you are in harm’s way. Or you try to fix the bridge that you thought you forever burned.

You get to decide if it’s worth it or not.

No matter what, though, you forgive, for you.

Forgive for you

Notes to self

  • Find more ways to teach groups, this is one of my most favorite activities. Public speaking career in the horizon?
  • Re-design the habit of writing daily, negative feelings are becoming more than the positive. Or, again, maybe it’s the weekend late night writing effect. Or just change the frequency to 6 days a week? Still thinking about this.
  • I did a super job today, good job me (don’t forget to tell yourself that).

Notes to self

Digital Accident

Half asleep a few days ago, I accidentally set my favorite social media usage control app Appblock on strict mode for 150 hours instead of 150 minutes. That means I can only use my preset blocking profiles in their below designated times:

  • Instagram for 1 hour between 8:30pm and 10pm.
  • Netflix for 30 minutes.
  • No WhatsApp between 6pm and 8pm to guard my evenings.

Previously, I usually locked and unlocked those profiles, but not with the strict mode.

Best accident ever.

I will do it every week. The only adjustment I would make is allow some time for Instagram in the morning to post something.

Digital Accident

How to Take Book Notes

When reading a paper book, I just underline or circle the bits I find surprising or useful. Then when I’m done reading the book, I type those bits into a text file.
-Derek Sivers

The Blank Sheet Method:
Before you start reading a new book, take out a blank sheet of paper.Write down what you know about the book / subject you’re about to read — a mind map if you will.
After you finish a reading session, spend a few minutes adding to the map with a different color.
Before you start your next reading session, review the page.
When you’re done reading, put these ‘blank sheets’ into a binder that you periodically review.
-Shane Parrish

These days I’m thinking about a question I receive a lot which is how to retain information we read. I don’t retain information enough, yet, especially that 80% of books I consume are in audio format. I don’t take notes about audiobooks or paper books I finish, I just highlight a lot in paper books. When I read on kindle I highlight what I like and thanks to the magical Readwise app, which imports my highlights and shares a few of them with me every day, I am remembering more of what I read recently.

I have also been using Blinkist app (this link gives you a one-month free trial) to review summaries of books I already read or new books to see if they are worth buying. I use Blinkist every single day. It’ brilliant and I love that I have the option to read or listen to very well executed summaries.

To better be able to retain and use what I learn from books I started reading How To Take Smart Notes. When I write here I want to start from somewhere and not stare at a blank page and this book will teach me how. I am learning a lot and will share with you as I go. I definitely need to start taking notes of books I read and tag them properly so I find them when I need them, that’s a confirmed piece of information you can use right away.

I have always known how Ryan Holiday and Gretchen Rubin take notes, I just need to start a sustainable way that works for me.

Another sources that would help you take book notes are these posts by Derek Sivers about his process for taking book notes and how to read a book.  

How to Take Book Notes

Book Interviews Playlists

I recently started a habit of collecting podcast interviews for books I love in Spotify playlists. It’s so amazing to listen to a favorite author talk about the book after or even while you are reading it.

I will keep updating this list and pin it soon to the website.

Book 1: Seth Godin- The Practice:

Book 2: James Clear-Atomic Habits: and in Arabic

Book 3: Cal Newport-Digital Minimalism

Book 4: Greg McKeown-Effortless (brand new)

Book Interviews Playlists