“Epictetus reminds us that we need to pay attention to what matters and to learn how to ignore so many of the relentless provocations that come our way.”
-The Daily Stoic Journal
Here is a current list of personal triggers:
- A phone call from that particular co-worker.
- Some sticker messages in WhatsApp group chats.
- Explaining something for the second time because someone was not paying attention the first time.
Here is how I will ignore my petty provocations:
- A phone call from that particular co-worker: Do not answer the call (until I remember their good intentions, which is getting their work done).
- Some sticker messages in WhatsApp group chats: Delete them.
Here is an insight about the third one:
- Explaining something for the second time is probably necessary, not because the other party was not paying attention; it’s probably because they did not understand me the first time, which means I was unclear. Clear communication is my responsibility. Interesting, yes?
Here is how I will ignore this provocation:
3. Explaining something for the second time: Take a breath and use this as a chance to get creative in my communication style.
Provoactions ignored!
How about you? Are you aware of your triggers?
If you can’t change them, for now, how will you ignore them?